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Spousal Support for your Hobby?

FSX Spousal Compatibility   

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  1. 1. Wife Vs. Me & FSX - Who wins?

    • FSX hands down - fully supportive partner
      57
    • I do ok - the odd Nag about time spent
      62
    • I Cop a lot of grief - its a definite relationship killer
      10
    • I'm in trouble all the time! Cant win
      1
    • Divorce looming!
      2
    • Divorced!
      4
    • What spouse? I'm single - gimmee another Beer!
      33


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Hi All,Heres one for all of you with Wives & Girlfriends (we won't go down the gay route as I think men 'get it' about why we fly - and no... no pun intended :( )How many of you have good, great, poor,or are simply divorced! :( as a result of spending too much time in front of the PC 'Wasting time' stuffing about with an imaginary plane?Or where your obsession was the 'straw-that-broke-the-camels-back' of your marraige? (obviously other problems contributed but this was an 'issue').Just do the Poll below;I'm interest in the results.Cheers,David

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She is into showing dogs, I'm into flying aeroplanes, and we both know more about each other's obsessions than we would probably like to, but we both fully support each other's interests, for example, my wife actually bought me my Saitek Rudder Pedals; on Saturday I will be helping her to bath dogs in the grooming salon she runs. Here's a funny story about how much I've affected my wife with regard to aeroplanes, which she used to have no interest in:A few years ago we were at a dog show (see?) and it was in a sports hall, but it was a warm day and the door was open. We both heard the unmistakable sound of a Merlin engine approaching, and I said: 'that sounds like a Spitfire!', my wife replied, 'no, it's a Hurricane.' We went outside and sure enough, a Battle of Britain Memorial Flight Hurricane flew overhead. How many of you can tell the sound difference between a Hurricane and a Spitfire?! It's things like that which confirm that I definitely married the right girl!Al

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My Wife loves the fact that I have this hobby! When we travel, I can tell her in ADVANCE which way the plane is going to bank, and after 13 years of FS, I can easily point out geographical highlights along the way. I soothe her nerves when I explain that "turbulence" is just like a bump in the highway, and can easily identify with the plane we are on....be it Boeing or Airbus. It's especially helpful when we had to take props like the Caravan when we were in South Africa. I flew right seat with a pilot in Alaska on a DeHavilland Beaver (at least the Pilot let me sit there!) She may not be as interested in it (as I think), but she likes the fact that it's a wholesome hobby and I spend many hours not bugging her about things.Stan

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Good thread- I'm well into (20 years) my second marriage after previously being hitched to someone that just didn't understand individual hobbies, so maybe I learnt something from the first time!When I did my private pilot license and instrument rating, my wife did the groundschool with me (at a community college in the evenings) and even the tests (at the ground-school, not the FAA tests). At the time she even knew about the theory associated with holding pattern entry, so like Al- I also think I married the right girl!She ( Sharon) has hobbies in sewing, geneology and photography. Combining the latter two, I sometimes search cemeteries with her to find old graves that other genealogists have asked her to photograph. Kind of fun to tune into the spouse's hobby, and she often takes interest in my simming.Bruce.

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When I did my private pilot license and instrument rating, my wife did the groundschool with me (at a community college in the evenings) and even the tests (at the ground-school, not the FAA tests). At the time she even knew about the theory associated with holding pattern entry, so like Al- I also think I married the right girl!Bruce.
Never been able to persuade my wife to go up in a glider with me, but I have got her up in a biplane a couple of times. I think the lack of an engine puts her off!Al

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She is into showing dogs, I'm into flying aeroplanes, and we both know more about each other's obsessions than we would probably like to, but we both fully support each other's interests, for example, my wife actually bought me my Saitek Rudder Pedals; on Saturday I will be helping her to bath dogs in the grooming salon she runs. Here's a funny story about how much I've affected my wife with regard to aeroplanes, which she used to have no interest in:A few years ago we were at a dog show (see?) and it was in a sports hall, but it was a warm day and the door was open. We both heard the unmistakable sound of a Merlin engine approaching, and I said: 'that sounds like a Spitfire!', my wife replied, 'no, it's a Hurricane.' We went outside and sure enough, a Battle of Britain Memorial Flight Hurricane flew overhead. How many of you can tell the sound difference between a Hurricane and a Spitfire?! It's things like that which confirm that I definitely married the right girl!Al
Great story Alan,Thanks for contributing. Its comforting to know that all is not lost! There are some girls out there who love what we do!Cheers,David

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Great story Alan,Thanks for contributing. Its comforting to know that all is not lost! There are some girls out there who love what we do!Cheers,David
My wife watched me sim from 1981 till 1989 and decided then that I needed real flying lessons-something I probably would have never done on my own.22 years later I now do both...and like others have stated we respect our individual interests. She is into dogs and bridge-I do a little of that-and she enjoys flying with me when we fly nice places.Works out nicely!

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My wife watched me sim from 1981 till 1989 and decided then that I needed real flying lessons-something I probably would have never done on my own.22 years later I now do both...and like others have stated we respect our individual interests. She is into dogs and bridge-I do a little of that-and she enjoys flying with me when we fly nice places.Works out nicely!
My girlfriend is fine with it, because it's so closely related to my career goals.

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My wife watched me sim from 1981 till 1989 and decided then that I needed real flying lessons-something I probably would have never done on my own.22 years later I now do both...and like others have stated we respect our individual interests. She is into dogs and bridge-I do a little of that-and she enjoys flying with me when we fly nice places.Works out nicely!
Good to see you back around here, Geof.Bruce.

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Good to see you back around here, Geof.Bruce.
Thanks Bruce-I had a crazy year but it is nice to be back!

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My wife is pretty supportive but what gets her is the amount of $$$ I have spent. I have minimized the cost of hardware by learning to build my own systems and upgrading sporadically rather than spending it all on one system. I usually try to keep it to one or two addons a month but some times the sales or releases come in bunches. Then the credit card bills come and I get the bills on the desk with circles and question marks beside the purchases. I always try to explain to her that in comparison to other hobby's it is a steal. I don't think she is convinced. I would like to get my Private Pilot license one day when the kids are older and I have reached my financial goals. Till then this is as close as I can get.

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My now Fiancé (just happened yesterday :)) supports my hobby completely. Even though I'm building m own home cockpit and need to move some things around the house, she's quite ok. As long as the bills keep getting paid and we still have a place to live and food to eat, I can do as I please.I do however fly according to her schedule (at work or sleeping). Because of my work schedule, I get limited time as it is with her, so that helps with the brownie points.She's also reduced her fears of flying because not only am I a professional in the aviation industry and can sooth her fears that way, she sees me flying on the sim and how "easy" I make it look. Great thread!

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My now Fiancé (just happened yesterday :)) supports my hobby completely. Even though I'm building m own home cockpit and need to move some things around the house, she's quite ok. As long as the bills keep getting paid and we still have a place to live and food to eat, I can do as I please.I do however fly according to her schedule (at work or sleeping). Because of my work schedule, I get limited time as it is with her, so that helps with the brownie points.She's also reduced her fears of flying because not only am I a professional in the aviation industry and can sooth her fears that way, she sees me flying on the sim and how "easy" I make it look. Great thread!
Hey Jeremy- congratulations on the engagement!!@ Mike- yes, with children at home and growing up it's often different about where and how money is spent, I can recall when my two girls (who are both married now with children of their own) were at home- FS (in any form) wasn't known then, neither were computers other than Z80 hexa-decimal PC boards- but if FSX and all this stuff had of been around I too would have had the question marks around those items on my cc statement. I did all my flight training and simming after they were grown, went to college and gone with their respective careers, so there is time after children to have fun! Good health and all other things willing, of course. My advice- looking back, those kids were children and at home for what now seems like a blink of an eye, and they were the very best days, so treasure every moment..... Bruce.

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My wife has been very supportive of my FS hobby, even though she has no interest in it herself. She knows I love aviation, but can never become a real pilot due to medical reasons so she knows FS is what I do to relax and have fun after a hard day as a 911 Dispatcher.For my 50th Birthday, she surprised me with a flight a a Top Gun type school called SkyFighters in Denver where I got to fly a T-34 Mentor. My avatar picture to the left was taken during that flight.As to the expense of things like FS add-ons, I will ask her if it will fit the budget this month. Her usual reply is "Go ahead, you know you are going to buy it anyway."

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Not that she ever really gave me any grief about it, but since I figured out how to actually make money at FS, my wife has no problem whatsoever with it. She goes around telling all her friends that they've got to come over and check out my basement cockpit setup. Doesn't get much better than that.

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My gf doesn't mind my hobby in fact she is into aviation herself. She used to be an aircraft dispatcher/ops controller at egbe. She would love to be back doing it so it's great that she has a similar interest, but obviously she was working with the real thing.Tom

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Im glad you said wives AND girlfriends..Can I vote twice? :( Ian

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Im glad you said wives AND girlfriends..Can I vote twice? Ian
B) Well... last year, my girlfriend became my wife (married in Las Vegas, but that's a completely different story B) ), but I fear she'll never agree to be my flight attendant during my FS flights. She thinks it's a crazy, childish game (mind you, I'm 37) and that it has nothing to do with real flying... :( It's a "tolerated" hobby, just like my RC-flying (fixed wing and heli's) hobby, but to be honest; she doesn't have a clue to the amount of money I spend on it :( . As someone stated above, as long as the bills get paid she doesn't really complain or notice, but for doing large expenses like a new computer upgrade, I have to massage is slowly over a period of several weeks.But in the end, I tend to believe she rather has me busy with flightsim than me sitting on the couch in an Al Bundy mode :( .

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Ah, good light-hearted poll. I bet this will generate a lot of replies over the weekend. That is if she doesn't have you clean out the garage, mow the lawn, fix the leaky sink.... :( Clutch(AL Bundy! Gotta luv it! :( )

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B) Well... last year, my girlfriend became my wife (married in Las Vegas, but that's a completely different story B) ), but I fear she'll never agree to be my flight attendant during my FS flights. She thinks it's a crazy, childish game (mind you, I'm 37) and that it has nothing to do with real flying... :( It's a "tolerated" hobby, just like my RC-flying (fixed wing and heli's) hobby, but to be honest; she doesn't have a clue to the amount of money I spend on it :( . As someone stated above, as long as the bills get paid she doesn't really complain or notice, but for doing large expenses like a new computer upgrade, I have to massage is slowly over a period of several weeks.But in the end, I tend to believe she rather has me busy with flightsim than me sitting on the couch in an Al Bundy mode :( .
I guess you mean: "I have to massage her slowly over a period of several weeks"

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My wife of 19 years is fully supportive. She doesn't want me to fly in real life ("too dangerous," says she--unknowingly), so she's more than happy for me to spend money on computers, video cards, FSX aircraft, yokes, etc., if it means that I stay at home and fly virtually (and in her mind, safely) in our basement. :(

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Hey Jeremy- congratulations on the engagement!!Bruce.
Hey thanks Bruce!

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FSX is a great excuse for me NOT to watch the trashy soap operas and endless copycat talent/reality TV shows that my wife is addicted to.There are so many of them on TV that I could become a long haul captain on FS and get away with it!But all in all she tolerates my hobby so can't moan too much!EDIT: Ps congrats too Jeremy!!

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The wife doesnt mind my FSX hobby at all. Actually she doesnt give me any issues with it except for the few times I had to delay a response or assistance due to being smack dab in the middle of a landing ot two. Other than that she is cool with it.Jim

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